Some couples will seek professional help not just because they are experiencing deep relationship problems but because their relationship has lost its edge somehow, it may have become jaded and they hope that with the right counselling, they will be able to rekindle their feelings. Some couples will have tried to discuss their problems with each other but may have issues still to resolve. Some couples will have tried to talk out their problems and may have failed and so need expert guidance.
My aim as a Professional Relationship Counsellor is a straight forward one – to work with you both, as a couple, to minimize the stress and maximize the benefits of your relationship. I have qualified in what is known as "Emotionally Focused Therapy” which will help each of you to understand the emotional feelings, experiences and reactions of your partner which has led to the breakdown in the communications and the relationship. I have personally experienced couples relationship challenges and have a thorough understanding of the emotions it can cause, behaviours that it can drive but more importantly how it can move forward.
When using emotionally focused techniques, I will seek out ultimate health through close relationships. This approach enables the progression of the emotion for all, rather than the suppression of emotions. Emotions are positive and then become a way of life. It is so important for the couple to have an emotional connection with each other and to be able to express it. Too often, couples who are misaligned within a relationship (for whatever reason) will push each other away and seek to hurt each other. In Emotionally Focused Therapy, it is not about delving back into childhood situations and memories, there is no blame, just an acceptance that there may be issues from the past which serve to impact the way the two individuals are connected to each other. So, the focus of emotionally focussed therapy is always on the present relationship and to determine what is stopping the couple from communicating, from relating to each other and from feeling much closer together.
The benefits of ‘Couples Relationship Counselling" are many and varied.