I have gained a professional counselling qualification and have, in the past, received counselling myself for difficult times that I have experienced in my life. I completely understand the benefits of counselling and how it can help you.
As a trained professional counsellor, I provide a safe, supportive and confidential space in which to help you to look at problems you are facing, in a non-judgemental way.
The work may focus on a specific problem like depression, anxiety or bereavement, or on a decision, crisis or conflict. I will help you to find ways to tackle them and to better use your existing resources and skills to solve life's problems. My work as a counsellor is not about giving advice or directing my clients to take a particular course of action, but to enable them to find a better way of dealing with their situation. I help the client to look at the options open to them and to find an area in which it would be possible to make some change as a start. We then work from there to continue to the positive path forward.
The patterns of thoughts, behaviours, and relationships that make up our lives can often be like circles that take us around and around. They may have developed long ago in our past or relatively recently. They are usually a response to an event, interactions, or other relationships. At the time they developed, they were a way to get through something, to cope and find the strength, or to make sense of the world at that time. In other words, they were solutions—maybe not great ones, but maybe the best that we could find. They worked, somehow, at the time. When a solution works, we will continue to use it, even though, over time, it becomes dysfunctional or unhealthy or unhelpful consequences develop. In time, these solutions become problems in themselves. It is a little like an arm that broke and didn’t heal properly—it is still useable, but there is a weakness.
To break out of those circles, sometimes you need a skilled, non-judgmental, and uninvolved listening ear, and a place that is outside of your daily life.
How do you change these patterns?
In counselling, we will take a number of different approaches, based on my experience, what you need and want, and factors such as how you learn and your skills and styles. We will identify what your patterns are, where they come from, and work on different strategies to help you learn new responses and options for living. Some of that work will be “here and now,” practical exercises and ideas you can use. Some of it will be through revisiting the past to see where you are stuck, and helping you to let go,
A wide range of subjects / issues can be addressed through counselling including;
Counselling sessions usually last between a 20 to 40 minute timeframe. It typically takes around 5 sessions for results to really start showing. During these sessions, we will unravel the emotions surrounding any issues and find the crux of the problem then begin to address by jointly marking out a map towards your future positive pathway.